We all are “creatures of habits”. I have read that by the age of thirty-five, 95% of our behaviors are habits. According to Sigmund Freud, only 10% of our thoughts are conscious and the rest is either the subconscious or unconscious. When we drive to work each day, we drive the same route everyday and it becomes a habitual pattern where conscious thought is not necessary. Have you ever driven to work and do not know how you got there? It is only when there is a traffic accident that blocks your normal path, that you have to wake up and figure out how to get to work another way.
Habits are developed since we are babies. It is said that a baby until age 7 is absorbing all data of behaviors, routines, traumas, and rewards in to his/her brain. Habits make us feel comfortable. We carry these records of behavior in our energetic fields.
When certain behaviors no longer serve us, it is when discontent happens, disruptive choices happen, and a feeling of depression sets in. If you are in a job or relationship that no longer makes you happy, you continue because you feel you need to, but you still feel unrest. You are not sleeping well, not eating well, doing addictive behaviors to blur the mind and your feelings, etc… You begin to feel “STUCK”!
I once attended a lecture by Caroline Myss, PhD, a holistic author and medical intuitive. She told a story which resonated with me.
If you believe in past lives, and you come down from Heaven with karmic issues that need to be cleared, and you are given “free choice” in this lifetime, what happens if things are not moving along your karmic path? Imagine you are at the wheel of your car driving on the path of your life, and your Guardian Angel comes to sit with you, carrying a clipboard with information about where and what you are supposed to be doing at this point of your life. Your Guardian Angel states that “You are Behind Schedule!” You are supposed to be further along on the designated Fate schedule on this lifetime.
Your Guardian Angel tells you he/she will help you along and move you forward by putting people who betray you. I sat in this lecture and was befuddled. I need to be betrayed to move out of my comfort zone??? My Guardian Angel said we will put people who will betray you, fire you, and cheat on you to help you move along in your karmic path. We call these people, the “Noble People”, the spirits who willingly come down to be the “bad” people to help you grow. Dr. Myss said the first people who betray you are your parents, so you move out of the house and become independent.
As the Chinese say, with crisis comes new opportunities. As one door closes, a new one opens…. So the moral of this story is, if you do not consciously change for your own good, you will be betrayed, to help kick you in the butt to move forward! As I tell my husband, if you do not learn to develop in this lifetime, you have to come back and do it all over again! Learn to welcome change! There are new and better adventures and opportunities out there!